In The Name Of Allah The Most Beneficent The Most Merciful
BEING THE THIRD SERMON FOR THE MONTH OF RABEE’UL AWWAL DATED 18TH RABEE’UL AWWAL 1441 AH (15TH NOVEMBER, 2019 CE)
THE DEALINGS OF THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH WITH HIS WIVES AND CHILDREN
All praises belong to Allah, the Lord of the whole universe, who said in His Most Honourable Book: “There is indeed a good model for you in the Messenger of Allah, for whosoever hope in Allah and the Last day and remembers Allah a lot” (Al-Ahzaab:21). Praise be to you Oh Allah on the Favour of Islaam and Faith. We praise and thank you for making us part of the Ummah (people) of Muhammad (Blessing and Peace of Allah be on him). I testify that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah. He is One and has no partner. I testify also that Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) he is Allah’s slave and messenger. The one who said in his noble speech (hadeeth): “I have not left anything that Allah commanded you to do except that I have commanded it (too), and I have not left anything from what Allah prohibited except that I have prohibited it (too). (Related by Bayhaqi and Tabaraani in his M’ujam). May the Benedictions, Peace and Blessings of Allah be on our leader Muhammad and his household, his companions in general and those that follow them.
Thereafter, Oh servants of Allah! I enjoin you and myself with the fear of Allah, the most Honourable and Majestic, which is the intended goal in all acts of worship and the desired objective. Indeed, Allah Ta’ala has said: “Oh mankind, fear your Lord who created you and those before you, so that you may be pious” (Al-Baqarah : 21).
Brothers in faith, this is the third meeting in the month of Rabeeul-Awwal, the month in which the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) was born, according to the most established statements of scholars about the birth of the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him). And in the past two weeks, we have talked about ‘The positions concerning Maulud Nabiyy’ and ‘Muhammad as a Mercy for the Universe’. Consequently, today in shaa Allah, we will be mentioning some of the traits of the Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) by discussing ‘The Dealings/Relationship Of The Messenger Of Allah With His Wives And Children’.
The prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) was an example and good model for Muslims in his character and his descriptions. He possessed the greatest character and he is a shining lamp that brings to light for all mankind, their loftiness and nobility, as well as their advancement and superiority. He laid the finest examples and methods in his dealings with near relatives, distant people, his friends and his enemies. He is the best to his family and his people whence he dealt with them with a loving heart and a compassionate soul, full of pity.
The following situations highlight the ways in which the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) related with members of his household:
Loving His Children: The prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) used to love his children, among them Faatimah (May Allah be pleased with her), such that when she entered upon the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him), he used to stand up from his seat to hold her hand and welcome her, then he would make her sit on his seat, and she used to do the same thing with him when he went to her.
Helping His Wives: The prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) did not allow male ego prevent him from helping his wives in the house chores. It has infact been related in his noble speech (Hadeeth): ‘Our mother ‘Aaishah was asked what the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) used to do in his house? She said: He used to be engaged with house chores, that he is assisting his family members, and when the time for salaat came, he would go out to pray (salaat).’ In another hadeeth, the activities of the messenger of detailed where it was said that he used to sew his clothes and used to mend his shoes. This is an indication of his complete character (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) and his compassion with his family.
Listening to the Advice of His Family Members: In the Treaty of Hudaybiyah, the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) listened to the advice of his wife, Um Salamah when she advised him to shave his head and slaughter his animal, and to remove his Ihraam garment so the other Muslims could see what he had done and follow suit. This was when they were worried and anxious on that day, refusing to free themselves of the restrictions of Ihraam because they were eager to enter the Sacred House of Allah that the idolators were preventing them from entering.
Finding Excuse for His Wives: It was related that Zaynab bint Jahsh, mother of the believers (may Allah be pleased with her), presented the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) a plate of food while he was in the house of our mother A’aishah (May Allah be pleased with her). When A’aishah saw this, she hit the plate with hand and broke it into two halves, spilling the food in her room. The prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) did not do more than smile, saying, “Your mother (i.e my wife) is jealous”. (Sahih Bukhaari)
Joking/Playing with His Wives: It was the practice of the prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) sharing lovely good times of their lives with his wives. He (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) used to have fun and joke with them (his wives), putting smiles on their faces such as when he allowed our mother ‘Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) to watch the women of Habasha dancing in the Mosque, and like when he used to race and compete with A’aishah (may Allah be pleased with her).
His Compassion with Children Members of his Household: The prophet used to be compassionate with the young ones in his household and used to be joyful seeing Hassan and Hussein, his two grandchildren. He would embrace them and kiss them to the extent of while he was on the Minbar delivering sermon. It was reported in a Hadeeth: The Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) was on the Minbar talking to people when Hassan and Hussein came along, the two of them wearing long red shirts, and they stumbled and fell as they were walking. He (Peace and Blessings of Allah be on him) descended (from the Minbar) and carried them and said: “Allah is truthful that your wealth and your children are trials. I saw these two (children) walking and they stumbled on their long shirt, and I could not bear it patiently (to hold back) until I climbed down to carry them” (Bukhaari).
THE SECOND KHUTBAH
Praise be to Allah the Lord of the worlds, Who made Islam the religion of tolerance, He said in His mighty book, “Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes – from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.” Q60v8. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Prophet, Muhammad, the carrier of the flag of tolerance to the world, his households, companions and those following him in righteousness till the day of judgement.
Oh servants of Allah, among the International Days established by the United Nations is the INTERNATIONAL DAY FOR TOLERANCE which holds every 16th Nov. As Muslims we hereby discuss tolerance from the Islamic perspective.
Tolerance refers to respect, acceptance and to honour the rich diversity in our world’s civilizations and the varieties of expressions as well as the human characteristics among us. This statement is taken from the Declaration of Principles on Tolerance adopted by UNESCO in 1995.
The UNESCO-Madanjeet Singh Prize for the Promotion of Tolerance and Non-Violence aims to reward people, institutions or organizations that have been particularly recognizable for several years to promote understanding and resolve international or national problems in a spirit of tolerance and non-violence.
Tolerance in Islam
The Islamic teaching called to tolerance which is supported by numerous verses of the Qur’an and Hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Part of the manifestations of tolerance is the goodness of the Muslim to the non-Muslims if he does not harm the Muslims. Islam as well grants freedom to the Dhimmis (non-Muslims living in the Muslim countries) and instructs the Muslims should not cross with their faith. Islam has ordered Muslims to leave the Dhimmi on their religion, where Allah says: “For you is your religion, and for me is my religion” (Suratul Kafirun: 6). Despite that, Islam ordered dialogue in kindness with them. Allah says: ((وَلَا تُجَادِلُوا أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ إِلَّا بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ)،(العنكبوت:29/46 ) “And do not argue with the People of the Scripture except in a way that is best.” (Suratul Ankaboot: 46). The Muslims complied with Allah’s injunction, they relate with People of the Book with good behavior, as they care for them, they judged them with justice. Among the manifestation of tolerance approved by Islam, the injunction to invite to Allah (Dawah) in gentle manner, softly and in kindness and dialogue in the best manner.
That was the approach followed by the Prophet (peace be upon him) he was calling for Tawheed and to Islam by only conveying the message without resorting to force, violence or coercion, since the basis of Islam is argument, proof and evidence, not coercion and force, as evidenced by what happened on the day of conquest of Mecca, when the Prophet- Peace be upon him – pardoned the people of Makkah after they hurt him, but Islam authorized the repelling of bad act by a bad like it, and punishing the wrong person for what he did to others. Allah says:
((وَجَزَاءُ سَيِّئَةٍ سَيِّئَةٌ مِّثْلُهَا فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الظَّالِمِينَ)،[الشورى:42/40])
“And the retribution for an evil act is an evil one like it, but whoever pardons and makes reconciliation – his reward is [due] from Allah. Indeed, He does not like wrongdoers” (Surat Shura: 40). But the best is tolerance between people, and to pardon one another.
Brothers of faith, this is the Islamic tolerance, but where is the Western tolerance or the tolerance of the United Nations?!. Look at what is happening to our brothers in the East and the West of the world? Ranging from; Murder, Humiliation, Torture, Intimidation and Imprisonment. We have not seen anything in the tolerance of the West, or the tolerance of the United Nations, or the tolerance of UNESCO except grievances, treason, obscenity, indecency, hostility and hatred and all that is not worthy for man and humanity!!! Look at the conditions of our brothers in Palestine, Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria, Burma, and so on. O Allah is the Helper regarding what they said and describe.