Asalam alekum my name is Abdulfatah i am a new revert before i accept Islam i have a girlfriend and we were serious about our relationship but when i told i that i want to accept Islam she didn’t say anything bad about my decision but when i asked her to accept Islam she told me that i should pay i bride price first before she will accept what should i do
Alhamdulillah, Islam permits marriage with people of the book, Christians inclusive, with the condition that they are modest and not wayward. Persons that are wayward are permissible for believers, because they end up as threat to the household’s honour.
Allah says: And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. (5: 5)
You mentioned that both of you are serious about your relationship before you accepted Islam, then it is possible you go ahead for marriage, because the prophet – peace be upon him, said: “It is not seen as deserving for the two who are in love than marriage.”
If she agrees to accepts Islam, that must be upon her conviction about the faith, not by compulsion.
However, if the conditions above are met, then it is permissible to concede to her request of payment of bride price before she commences to practice Islam. Uthman (R.A) married Nailah, a Christian who accepted Islam while with him.
Whichever way, ensure you are not having seclusion when you are not married yet, if not it may lead to illicit sex, zina.
There is that challenge of training the children in the spirit of Islam and infact that of the lady if she eventually accepts Islam, and that places a huge responsibility upon you. Allah says: “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones” Ibn Abbas says that means: “train and educate them.”
Remember, she will always be with the children, if her acceptance of Islam is not strengthened with knowledge, then it could be unpalatable.
However, some group of scholars dislike marriage to people of the book with the reason that she is susceptible to deceit, and temptation.
May Allah grant us beneficial knowledge.
Allah knows best.
Imam Sherifdeen Ibraheem
Na’ibul Amir, Cultural Affair (NACA)
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