2nd Jumaadal Aakhirah 1442 AH
(15th January 2021 CE)
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH THE MOST BENEFICENT THE MOST MERCIFUL
BEING THE FIRST SERMON FOR THE MONTH OF JUMAADAL THAANI DATED 2ND JUMAADAL AAKHIRAH 1442 AH (15TH JANUARY, 2021 CE)
GOODNESS OF CHILDREN: MEANS AND BENEFITS
All praises belong to Allah, the Lord of the Universe, the One Who said in His Perfect Revelation: ‘O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.’ [Tahreem:], the One Who made goodness of children the coolness of the eyes for the parents in life and after death. I testify that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah alone. Thre is no partner or associate for Him in His Lordship and devotion, and in His Names and Attributes. I testify also that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. He urged the bringing up of children. Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him, his household and his most virtuous and honourable companions.
Thereafter, oh you people, fear Allah and know that children are a heavy responsibility on the neck of their parents. The prophets of Allah, peace and blessings be upon them, used to call on Allah for goodness of their offspring even before they have them. Ibrahim, the beloved of Allah, peace be upon him, said: ‘………’ [As’Saafat:100]. Zakariyyah, peace be upon him said: ‘………’ [Aal’Imraan:38]. Children are brought forth between two parents, and one of the greatest objective of marriage is to be blessed with good children. Therefore, it is necessary that when proposing marriage, the man must select a good woman. The Messenger of Allah [Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him] said: ‘…marry the one that has religion [Islaam] and you will prosper’. And He [Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him] said: ‘If one whose religion you are pleased with come to you, then entrust your daughter to him’. In another narration, he added: ‘…and his character, then marry your daughter to him, otherwise there would be tribulation in the land and a great corruption’. So the one who proposes does not look at only the position or the family lineage of the woman, nor does he look at her beauty nor her money. Rather he looks at the uprightness of her religion, because that is the source for good offsprings, and she is the soil that the husband tills and puts his seed. It should be a good germination and not a bad one, when the foundation of the family is being founded, which is the basis of an upright society and Ummah. Therefore, our sermon today will be about goodness of children: means and principles.
Servants of Allah, dear listeners, the path of Allah, the natural inclination that Allah has set man upon is goodness from the time that he is born, except that his parents would make him whatever he ends up becoming in his life: ‘Every child is born on the fitrah of Islaam, then his parents make him Jew or a Christian or a Magian’. So if the parents are a corrupt, odious couple, then they change the natural inclination of the child which is Islaam, to other deviant paths and religions. If however the parents are good upright people, then they would nurture and grow this natural inclination of Islaam and guide him upon it, guiding all his activities upon goodness and uprightness and adhering to the religion of Islaam, until he becomes the coolness of their eyes, becoming the practical realization of the Words of Allah Ta’alah: ‘And those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous." [AlFurqaan: 74].
Children as much as they are a favour and blessings from Allah, they are equally a trust that must be discharged the way Allah Ta’alah has instructed: “Indeed, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they are due and when you judge between people to judge with justice. Excellent is that which Allah instructs you. Indeed, Allah is ever Hearing and Seeing” [AnNisaai: 58]. It infact is one of the greatest trust placed on man, and betraying that trust is one of the greatest ever betrayal. Allah Ta’alah says: ‘O you who have believed, do not betray Allah and the Messenger or betray your trusts while you know [the consequence].’ [Al Anfaal: 27]. The explanation has been given by the Messenger of the Lord of the Universe that every man shall be held responsible about his wards on the Day of Judgement when he said: ‘…all of you are shepherds and all of you are going to be asked about his flock. A man is a shepherd over his family and he would be asked about them, and the woman is going to be asked about her home’ [Bukhaari]. And he [Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him] also said: ‘there is no man that Allah puts in charge of some people, and he deceives them, except that Allah forbids Paadise for him’ [Bukhaari and Muslim].
The role of parents is very important in determining the path of the children, just as they are a factor for his goodness or otherwise. Therefore, the parent especially the father must be concerned about the wellbeing and uprightness of his child. He should not say that the wellbeing of the child is in Allah’s Hand. Yes, wellbeing is in Allah’s Hand, but there are means of attaining wellbeing and uprightness. So he must be up and doing in seeking the means of wellbeing until Allah makes him turn out well. However, if he neglects him and leaves the responsibility, claiming that wellbeing is in the Hand of Allah, then he has indeed rubbished and neglected the trust.
Some of the means of raising righteousness children:
1- Choosing the mother: It is incumbent upon the one who longs for a righteous child to choose a believing mother for him, who knows the right of her Lord, the right of her husband, and the right of her child, and also understands how to raise her child. because she is the first school that the child will graduate from. A poet said: “The mother is a school, if you prepare her, you prepare a nation of good race. The mother is the teacher of teachers, whose exploits ignite the extent of the horizons.” It was narrated that Abu al-Aswad al-Du’ali said to his son: “Oh my children! I have been good to you when you were young and when you were grown up and before you were born.” They said: “How were you good to us before we were born? He said: “I chose for you a mother through whom you will never be dishonoured.” In another account, a man complained to his friend about the disobedience of his son, his bad dealings, and his lowly nature, and he (the friend) said: "Do not blame anyone, but blame yourself; because you did not (rightly) choose his mother.” In the past, people do say: “A woman nearly give birth to her brother.” And “Behind every great person is a (great) mother.”
2. Supplication for children for goodness, guidance and blessing: Here we have the Friend of Allah, Ibrahim, (peace annd blessings be upon him) praying and saying: “My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.” (Suratul Ibrahim: 40). He raised the palms of supplication saying: “Our Lord, and make us Muslims [in submission] to You and from our descendants a Muslim nation [in submission] to You.” (Al-baqarah: 128)
Likewise, prophet Zakariyyah, peace and blessing be upon him, did not ask for just an offspring rather, he sought for it being a good and righteous one: “At that, Zakariyyah called upon his Lord, saying, "My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication." (Al-Imran: 38) And the father supplicate for his child such prayer that is believed to come to pass by Allah’s permission.” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, directs his nation to pray for the offspring before they are born. On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them, he said; The Prophet said, "If anyone of you on having sexual relations with his wife said (and he must say it before starting) ‘In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan and also protect what you bestow upon us (i.e. the coming offspring) from Satan, and if it is destined that they should have a child then, Satan will never be able to harm that offspring." (Bukhari and Muslim)
3- Being merciful to them and showing compassion and tenderness towards them: This is one of the most important things that children need, and the Prophet, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, was the exemplary model in this matter. How much emotional emptiness that children suffered which thereafter caused many problems that parents were unable to withstand. The best solution for such is a kiss on the forehead of that son or the daughter and a hugg from the parents, and a caring word coming from the heart. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) kissed his grandson Al-Hasan bin ‘Ali (May Allah be pleased with them) in the presence of Al-Aqra’ bin Habis. Thereupon he remarked: "I have ten children and I have never kissed any one of them." Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) looked at him and said, "He who does not show mercy to others will not be shown mercy". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Children desperately need to be drawn closer to the caring arms of their parents away from the tribulations of the present society, so that their hearts become softened to accept guidance and counselling towards righteousness.
4. Complete Islamic Education: This includes all the Islamic teachings; the fundamentals and principles of faith, the love of Allah and His Messenger, knowledge of the injunctions in order to work by them and move away from the prohibitions. The early Muslims used to educate their children on their own before choosing for their children, the best teacher, knowledge wise and most distinguished in approach. Abd al-Malik bin Marwan said to his son’s teacher: “Teach them truthfulness as you teach them the Qur’an and make them adopt beautiful morals.” When Harun al-Rashid handed his faithful son to the teacher, he said to him: “The Commander of the Faithful has given you the joy of his soul and the fruit of his heart, teach him the Qur’an and the Sunnah … "
5- A good example: This is more impactful than dozens of words, directives and exhortations. Parents must ensure they serve as practical example for their children in what they want to educate them on, because the child grows up to see his parents and from them picks his way of life and his approach for life and he follows their steps. The deviation that exist in many children are only due to the corruption of the source of model in the parents and the neglect of responsibilities.
One of the benefits of having righteous children is that, it is a kind of good deed, the benefit continues for the parents while alive and even after death, before anyone and the society in general. Otherwise both parent lose the opportunity to this benefit in this world and the hereafter: “Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three: Continuing charity, knowledge that others benefited from, and a righteous son who supplicates for him.”(Reported by Muslim). Also, the effect of the deviations in behavior and etiquettes return to the society and the nation, going by what is spread in the form of deviations in morals, through theft, war, drinking alcohol and drugs, causing crisis and riot as a result of what the children were brought up with across different families.
I beseech Allah for me and you, to amend our conditions and the conditions of our children and the nation.
I said what you have heard while seeking Allah’s forgiveness for me and you, so seek His forgiveness, for He is the Forgiving, the Most Merciful.
THE SECOND SERMON
Praise be to Allah, The Loving, The Compassionate, The Merciful, The forgiver of sin, acceptor of repentance, severe in punishment, owner of abundance. There is no deity except Him; to Him is the destination. He says: " And if Allah were to impose blame on the people for their wrongdoing, He would not have left upon the earth any creature, but He defers them for a specified term. And when their term has come, they will not remain behind an hour, nor will they precede [it]." (An-Nahl: 61) May His peace and blessings be upon His noble Messenger, his family and his entire companions.
One of the mercy of Allah, the Exalted on the man is that he gives them respite; he neither punish them nor give the (evil) reward of their sins and transgressions, but rather He makes them taste of what they have done perhaps they would repent. Today, this is the reality we live with for about a year now due to the Covid-19 pandemic which necessitated the last restriction which lasted for nothing less than six months. Here we are now with the reality of a new strain of the virus that have forced some developed countries, such as the UK, Spain, and others to go into another stay-at-home restriction. Our dear nation have recorded many cases of the infection recently, which included doctors in the front line fighting the pandemic, and if this indicates anything, then it indicates the need for vigilance and seizing the opportunity to return to Allah through submission, and sincere repentance from sins and transgression before it is too late. “And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.” (Suratul- An-nur: 31). And that is compliance with the approach of preventive, projected by the medical and public health experts. We seek protect of Allah from all forms of plagues and calamities.
Dua: O Allah, our Lord, to You, we surrendered our souls, to You we turned our faces, and unto You we relied our backs and to you we surrendered our affairs. So preserve us with the protection of faith before us, behind us, from our right, from our left, from above us, from below us and towards us and defend us and grant us security in our homeland with your strength and might, because there is no power or might except with You. Glorify Islam and Muslims, humiliate shirk and polytheists, destroy the enemies of the religion, and make this country safe and comfortable, and the rest of the Muslim countries, Oh Lord of the Worlds. Our Lord, accept from us, verily You are the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing, and accept our repentance, oh Lord of the worlds. Grant peace and blessings upon your servant and your messenger, Muhammad, and upon all his family and companions